The biggest problem within most relationships is a lack of healthy and effective communication. So many people don’t know how to get their message across. Some resort to yelling, name calling or stone-walling. This leads to a build up of resentment which eventually leads to more arguing and the unhealthy communicative cycle continues. Good communication is like a good tennis match. It involves a lot of back and forth communication. An equal amount of give and take is crucial in order for effective communication to take place. What does that ‘give and take’ involve? Well, it involves a fair chance for each person to express themselves and also to be heard. In other words, taking turns to talk and listen.