How I work

Anxiety:
I utilize cognitive behavioral therapy, strengths perspective and mindfulness to treat anxiety. I teach how to reality test anxieties, calming techniques such as breathing exercises and guided imagery. In addition, I help with increasing confidence which will in turn also help with defeating anxiety.
Romantic and interpersonal relationships:
I utilize attachment-based therapy by providing psychoeducation about attachment theory and helping you understand what your attachment style is as well as teaching how to recognize the attachment styles of others. As you begin to understand how different attachment styles interact with one another, you’ll gain a better understanding of yourself and your relationships.
Career and Stress Management:
If you’re looking to find a healthy work/life balance, we’ll work together on prioritizing your career and personal goals. I use CBT to help clients feel less overwhelmed with the demands of their daily responsibilities.
OCD:
I utilize CBT, Mindfulness and Exposure and Response Prevention therapy to help clients overcome the strong psychological pull of obsessions and compulsions.

The Benefits of Tele-therapy

  1. Save Time: no need to spend time stuck in traffic or commuting via any other method to your appointment.
  2. Save Money: no need to spend money on gas, train or bus in order to commute to your session.
  3. Consistency: with online therapy, bad weather (especially in the winter) won’t stop you from missing your appointments.
  4. Comfort and Convenience: you can receive the help you need in the comfort of your own home without the need to travel to the office.
  5. Easier Access: freedom of choice to choose if you want therapy via phone or video.
  6. Work/Life Balance: no need to ask your boss if you can leave work early to make it on time for your appointment.

 

Is your partner healthy for you?

10 signs your partner isn’t healthy for you
1. Your partner is controlling – tells you how to dress, how to behave or expects you to act on command.
2. Your partner is disrespectful –  acts as if your feelings, thoughts,and opinions do not matter.
3. Your partner is unappreciative – never thanks you for your efforts and all that you do for the relationship, never goes out of their way to make you feel loved and appreciated.
4. Your partner is unreliable – you cannot depend on your partner because he/she has never followed through on their word and always has excuses for why they did not follow through.
5. Your partner lies – everyone lies but this person lies on a continual basis and then when you catch them in a lie, they’ll deny it.
6. Your partner never apologizes when in the wrong – you are the one who is made to feel as though everything that is wrong with the relationship is your fault because he/she refuses to take responsibility for his/her actions.
7. Your partner does not respond to calls or texts in a timely manner – and when you finally do talk, does not even make mention of the fact that your text message went unanswered 8 hours ago.
8. Your partner tells you they love you but their actions show otherwise –  does nothing to back up words of love with actions of love.
9. Your partner is selfish – everything is about what he/she wants from which movie to go see, where to go on vacation to where the two of you will live.
10. Your partner is manipulative – says things to make you feel guilty even when you did nothing wrong, just to get things done their way.

When is the right time to make your relationship official on Facebook?

If your relationship is important to you, then you won’t be worried about making it official on social media. People who have strong relationships do not display their affection for each other on their social media accounts. Your relationship is private, and therefore, has no place on social media. So if you’re wondering when is the right time to make your relationship official on social media, the answer is never.
But if you are determined to change your relationship status on Facebook, then it is advisable to approach your partner by using “I” statements when expressing why you would like to change your status online. For example, “I” statements such as “I feel”, “I need”, “I want” to help you express yourself. If the two of you feel comfortable about changing your relationship status online, then it’s important to set boundaries about what will be posted in the future and how frequently posts regarding your relationship will be made, if any at all. If you are changing your relationship status online to let the world know you are off the market, then that should come at a time when the both of you know that you are invested in one another and no longer are interested in dating other people.

Links to Articles I’ve been Featured in

https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/am-i-dating-a-narcissist

He Looks At Other Women- 5 Relationship Experts Reveal Exactly How To Handle This

Is He Serious About Me or Just Playing? 4 Experts Show Exactly How To Find Out

 

 

https://www.therapyroute.com/therapist/jackie-krol-new-york-united-states

The Concept of Soulmates

The Concept of Soulmates

It’s probably safe to say that a lot of people believe in soulmates. But is that a healthy ideal to strive for within your romantic relationships? First, let’s define soulmates. Soulmates are viewed as two souls who belong together so essentially two people who are perfect for each other. A couple who was meant to be together. Perfection.

 

But I thought the old sayings “Nobody’s perfect” and “There’s no such thing as perfect” were true? That’s right…perfection doesn’t exist. So then how could soulmates exist? Well, they don’t. But that doesn’t mean you can’t have a soul mate.

 

Confused?

 

I’ll explain.

 

When two people who are both searching for the same things out of life and share the same mentality on life, relationships and marriage come together, they can MAKE each other their soul mates. How you ask? Well, by making a conscious choice to love each other, continuously help each other on this journey called life and make their life plans and strive for those life plans together. These two people actually help each other ACHIEVE their life plans, since they are on the same course in life. This is a more realistic definition of soulmates.

 

They make each other feel as though they BELONG together. They don’t just cosmically, instantly feel as though they belong together. You don’t “just know” when you meet the right person. This continued belief in a fairytale type of love story only prevents people from having a fulfilling relationship. The constant search for The One and The One being this cosmic connection is a faulty way to think about and approach love and relationships. There are many people in this world who can be The One…No, you say? Because if there were so many options then why are you still single or why haven’t you met your other half yet? Well, think about it. There are billions of people in this world…so there are lots of chances to meet a person who will share a similar outlook on life as you do. Also, evaluate how you’ve been approaching your search. With what mentality have you been dating? Do you disregard someone right away with whom you had an “okay” time with on a first date? First impressions aren’t always great. People are nervous on 1st dates, so they may be unable to put their best foot forward and show you their stellar personality. Maybe it’s worth it to go on a 2nd or even 3rd date with this person.

 

Are you only looking for chemistry? Is chemistry the MOST important thing to you on a date? And if you don’t feel it right away, do you disregard the person as not being The One or your soulmate? True chemistry grows slowly as the bond between two people develops slowly. True chemistry that is developed over time will last a lifetime. But that instant chemistry or that instant cosmic feel won’t last for too long and once it fades, so does the relationship. So think about if you want a temporary cosmic excitement that will go down in flames or a long-lasting bond that is built over time and, will therefore, be most rewarding. It’s important to continuously re-evaluate one’s approach to love and relationships in order to make sure one is not in search of something that doesn’t exist. What happens when one is living in the real world but searching for something that only exists in fairytales? The search won’t be very productive.

-Psychotherapist Jackie

The biggest problem within most relationships is a lack of healthy and effective communication. So many people don’t know how to get their message across. Some resort to yelling, name calling or stone-walling. This leads to a build up of resentment which eventually leads to more arguing and the unhealthy communicative cycle continues. Good communication is like a good tennis match. It involves a lot of back and forth communication. An equal amount of give and take is crucial in order for effective communication to take place. What does that ‘give and take’ involve? Well, it involves a fair chance for each person to express themselves and also to be heard. In other words, taking turns to talk and listen. Please share your experiences with poor communication styles and examples of how you were able to improve your communication skills.

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Communication is one of the cornerstones in any relationship. – Jackie Krol, LCSW

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