The biggest problem within most relationships is a lack of healthy and effective communication. So many people don’t know how to get their message across. Some resort to yelling, name calling or stone-walling. This leads to a build up of resentment which eventually leads to more arguing and the unhealthy communicative cycle continues. Good communication is like a good tennis match. It involves a lot of back and forth communication. An equal amount of give and take is crucial in order for effective communication to take place. What does that ‘give and take’ involve? Well, it involves a fair chance for each person to express themselves and also to be heard. In other words, taking turns to talk and listen.
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Psychotherapist Jackie 
It’s hard for me to tell someone they’ve hurt me. I think I am afraid of confrontation. I know I have a whole history of this and have lost people because of it. I struggle to speak up for myself sometimes, I keep quiet and let it go. I can definitely trace how I got to be like this but I can’t seem to stop. It’s not disastrous as I’ve been lucky to love and make friends with amazing people but sometimes I check out with some people without even realizing that I have. I think I’m a stone waller.
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It’s important for one to ask themselves what is the most difficult part of confronting someone? Is it the fear of disappointing them? Fear of rejection? Does the anxiety get overwhelming? Is it worth it not to speak up for oneself? What is the price that one pays when one does not let their voice be heard?
These are all important questions one should consider asking himself when looking for a way to feel more comfortable to express their concerns and let their voice be heard within their relationships with others.